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I Wanted to Write, so I Wrote

“Continuous improvement” has been my chosen mantra over the past year because my illogical logic is adamant in believing that remaining idle in our current positions in life restrict us from becoming better versions of ourselves. Thus, if we cannot be better, then we also cannot find happiness as happiness is found in doing more. For that reason, I have endeavored to stay true to this motto and conduct my life in a manner which adheres to the rules I have set forth for myself. Prior to today, continuous improvement meant some of the more obvious archetypal goals of someone who is trying to become better in all aspects of life – searching for a more fulfilling job with a higher paying salary, presenting myself as someone who is well read and well versed in a plethora of subject matters, becoming a healthier individual through food and fitness, and most importantly becoming aware of how to self love. Now if all of the things I have just listed remain in accordance with how I have defined continuous improvement, the execution of these things should therefore bring me happiness. This is true. I am happy. However, I think I can be even more happy — if I continually improve. Do you see what is wrong here?

As I sat in solitude today, I freed my thoughts and allowed them to run wild in my mind. In this time of meditation, I found that happiness is indeed a limitless resource. Knowing that with no upper boundaries to the amount of joy I could feel, I yearned for more. I always yearn for more. What could I do to make myself even more happy? Should I read a book or learn a new recipe? Should I sketch or write out new business ideas?

And only in this moment of self reflection did I come to find how my thoughts and emotions were so incongruous. The idea of “more”, doing more or being more is extremely tiring and unceasing – hence the continuous part of improvement. Being tired and relentless in efforts to chase this higher level of happiness in actuality puts me in a state of deep dejection because ultimately I can always be more happy than I presently am. This idolized state of happiness that I was so desperately trying to achieve is unrealistic because it will always be upcoming, next, and never now.

What I have been so naive to notice and have so easily overlooked, is how precious living in this very moment is with all that I currently have and all that I currently am. Today in my state of isolation, I felt a rush of love for the present day. I am overflowing with appreciation for Now. Who I am now, all that I have now, and where I am right now.

Even though it is probably still in my nature to continue to strive to be a better version of myself each and every day, I am now so aware of the importance of the every day and how today I am better than I was yesterday and that is something to be truly happy about.

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The Millennial Employee Retention Paradox

I have seen the data, read the articles, and the proof is in the pudding. Employers already possess the answers on how to retain Millennial employees and yet they continue to ask the same questions and make the same mistakes. The Millennial generation has been characterized as a group of employers always looking for the next best opportunity. In turn if the perception is so, than the answer is simple: employers need to create the next best opportunity within their organization.

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How To Improve Relations With Your Manager

You have landed your dream job in the heart of the big city where the crowd of hustling pedestrians are numerous and the glass-pane skyscrapers are mountainous. For the most part, the struggle of waking up before lunch time has finally become manageable and commuting through morning traffic is no longer intolerable. It took some time but you have crafted the perfect go-to coffee order and established a routine for how to tackle the multitude of e-mails that flood your inbox during the few hours you are not online. In a moment of reflection, it seems as if you are getting the hang of working where you can sort of describe it as enjoyable. You could almost categorize it as the ideal job if you just didn’t get stuck with the most difficult manager in the firm. Similar to any relationship, at times you may feel misunderstood or mistreated but in order to improve the status from “It’s Complicated” to something better, it must start with accepting responsibility for your role in the affair.

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3 Things to Never Forget From Your First Real Job

Started from the bottom and now we are still here. If your job title is prefixed with “Junior” or “Associate”, suffixed with “Assistant” or “I”, or any other word to indicate that you are at or near the bottom of the organizational hierarchy, then there is a high probability that you are also a Millennial and a recent graduate from university. At least that is how I would classify my current status. I am nine months into the labors of being a young professional and the birth of my first experience in the “real world” has taught me three things to carry forward throughout my career path.

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